No commitment, sex when you want it, sex with a trusted person, safe and convenient. It make you wonder what could possibly have all these characteristics and actual be real. Friends with benefits is the answer. When you are in a FWB relationship you are living a pretty good life, especially if you are living the life od a college student. You have so much work to do, you may not feel like you have time to commit to an actual relationship. You are already under so much stress with school work you don't want to add to the stress with a relationship. You may just want a person that you can just have sex with and be completely platonic. Which is exactly what you can get out of a FWB relationship. Now this kind of relationship isn't for everybody. Like some people like being in a relationship. Some people who get into FWB relationships cant handle it because they allow feelings to get involved and that's when things begin to get complicated. Someone may not feel the same way then feelings end up hurt and it begins to complicate the friendship.
These relationships where friends have sex are expected to fail because a person always catches feelings. So I found an article (http://www.thedatereport.com/dating/advice/how-to-do-friends-with-benefits-the-right-way/) that gives tips on how to have an successful friends with benefits relationship. A few tips were to remember that you are friends first, to be upfront about any feelings you may begin to develop so they don't get to strong, practice safe sex (a must), be open and courteous, just because you sleep together doesn't mean you aren't still friends. The one I liked the most was don't sleep over, which makes perfect sense because after sex you may feel vulnerable so to have that comforting cuddle could make a person think this is more that just sex. Breakfast in the morning after a sleep over is definitely out of the boundaries of a FWB relationship. Follow these tips and hopefully the next FWB you are in will be a good one.
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