Non-verbal
communication is the process by which we communicate by sending and
receiving wordless, visual messages. In
lecture we have discussed multiple ways of communicating non-verbally. For
example we spoke of how simply looking at someone’s Facebook page can give us
numerous assumptions, conclusions, judgements, and opinions about someone we
hardly know, without that person uttering a word. Speaking from experience, as
a high school student, to me it didn’t matter what appeared on my Facebook
page. The tables quickly turned when I learned as a college student that what
appeared on my social network could make or break my career before it even
began.
While we know that looking at someone’s social network such
as Facebook could leave an accurate or false perception of who someone is or
how they act, after meeting them the final judgement comes from our experience
and perception. However, what if we were in the shoes of a potential employer
and the ‘bad taste’ left in our mouths was enough to not pursue an interview
with a potential employee because of it?
In the article, “Beyond Intractability; Misunderstandings”
by Heidi Burgess of “The Beyond Intractability Knowledge Base Project” (2003)
conducted at the University of Colorado Boulder, Burgess discusses how a number
of different things can influence a message and prevent it from being perceived
accurately.
Most people like to joke with friends and family including
the infamous explanation “its an inside joke” or “its an inside joke, you
wouldn’t understand” but when putting those jokes out on social networks, and
no one is there to regulate/clarify if you were joking, what tone was used,
what context you meant it in, what you really meant, regardless if others
understand them or not, you’re being judged for the non-verbal communications the
receiver perceives them to be.
Factors the perceiver may encounter are how the message is
sent, affirming something we already know, raising question from contradiction,
can the person be taken seriously due to how they are being perceived in their
photos, would this person be an accurate depiction of how we want our employees
to represent our company, and so forth?
While our generation has been growing up on technology, I can
say with confidence that if not all, most of us have witnessed or have been the
victim of what I like to refer to as a cyber fight. Now not only can these
potential employers see what we do, who we are friends with, how we want others
to see us, and what we like but now they also get a glimpse into our not so
personal lives. This is why I will never argue over a social network. When you
put your personal problems out there for the world to see, they aren’t exactly
personal anymore.
In short, misinterpretations let along misinterpretations on
social networks where tone and context are ambiguous reaffirms my belief of how
non-verbal communication can be dangerous for our futures.
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