I have very little experience with online dating. All my relationships have been close, or at least somewhat close. The thought of online dating is very intimidating for me. It is not something I think I would ever be very interested in. But watching the video on online dating stories had me very curious about how people can become so close just from chatting and looking at each other's profile pics. Obviously the more attractive people would catch a lot of views, but from the video it seemed like that wasn't just the case. The third person in the video even met up with two girls he admitted to not being very attracted to.
So my question is, what makes a dating profile more appealing to people looking for someone to be with? To get some answers to this question, I searched and found an article on The Daily Beast that reports on researchers discovering the secret to a perfect online dating profile. All of these ideas parallel with the concept of self presentation. They are basically tips for how to present yourself in a way that will attract other people on the internet. The first thing that they suggests is the importance of what your user name is. Most likely, it is the first thing people will see on your profile. Men usually look for a username that suggests the person on the other side is sexy. Women tend to like men's usernames that suggest they are intelligent.
Next, we have profile pictures. The first thing the article recommends is having a genuine smile. That means no duck faces ladies! This doesn't mean that selfies are the best way to go though. It's okay to have some, but it's also good to have some photographs of you and friends. Primarily with you in the middle to assert your dominance I guess.
Last but not least, we have the importance of your self presentation. This article says to be honest and genuine but not be too harsh with your self evaluation. The experts say the first time you meet someone, you'll be able to tell if they were lying on their profile which I would assume is not a great first impression. That doesn't mean you have to be 100% true to yourself though. Researchers say that it is appropriate to find a nice balance of what you have to what you want to have. About seventy percent true, and thirty percent wishing is apparently the premise for a good online dating profile.
Because this is more of a summary article, you can check out the full article and research conducted here. From reading more about this, I can still safely say that online dating isn't for me. I guess I'm old fashioned in that sense, and prefer getting to know people face to face.
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